Monday, November 8, 2010

Every Parent's Guide to Middle School Success

My son is in 6th grade, and for the first time ever he is not at my school! Since I am an elementary school teacher he has always been able to go to the school that I teach at. Therefore, I was extremely worried (and A LOT sad) about him going to another school WITHOUT me! When I was offer a copy of Every Parent's Guide to Middle School Success I was excited to read it because as a parent, I know that I have a huge impact on how my child succeeds - or fails - during these critical and formative years.
The purpose of this guide is to give you information and ideas to help children who are experiencing academic problems in middle school. Has your child done well before but is now starting to struggle in middle school? Have they been doing well in transitioning to middle school, but somewhere along the way they have fallen behind? If yes, then this guide is for you. Experience shows, without adequate parental support and coaching, your child will be at a severe educational disadvantage.

Every Parent’s Guide to Middle School Success, offers simple and practical strategies for helping your child succeed in middle school. Here is some of his best advice.

YOU the Parent – Are The Linchpin. Recognize that while success in Middle School is a team effort with the parent, the teacher and the student, YOU the parent are the most important part of the team. YOU influence your child. YOU influence the teacher. So acknowledge your role and take the responsibility for what happens.

Communicate with Your Child – Talk in the morning. Talk in the afternoon. Talk in the evening. Talk by phone. Text your child as frequently as appropriate to coordinate where they are, what they are doing next, and what they and you will be doing together next. Stay in direct contact with your child and do not lose the direct personal attention and connection.

Find out what is really happening at school - What is really going on in school? Find out. Go to the school and get all the information the school has available. Search the Internet. Study the school web page. Learn about the extracurricular programs and opportunities for student and parent involvement. Get the calendar identify the events. Learn what is planned and talk to the teachers, coaches, and other parents and place these events on your calendar. Learn and think about what your child is doing, with whom and when from morning to night.

Get your child involved in school activities - Get them into clubs, sports, music, theatre, and other sponsored and monitored after school activities. Encourage them to develop interests, skills and the desire to perform and develop in all sorts of ways. Support them to the maximum degree in whatever they decide to be interested in even if it is a financial sacrifice that needs to be budgeted and carefully managed.

Go to the school often - Get involved yourself. Go to events with your child. Be an avid fan and cheerleader. Be a coach, be a helper, be a fundraiser, offer to chaperone, offer to cook, offer to help clean up. Volunteer to be a teacher’s aide. Even just sit in class and watch the teacher sometime if it is allowed.

Listen to what is happening carefully – Read the school newspaper regularly. Read the Principal or School Teacher newsletter. Jump on the news of opportunities for new activities and involvement. Pay attention to what’s new. Read progress reports carefully.

Attend School Conferences – Make the back to school night and all student parent teacher conferences a mandatory event. Learn what is being taught in each class. Look at the books and materials being used to teach. Look at the rooms and facilities where your child will be spending each day. Put names to faces and learn how to contact teachers by phone and email if you have questions. Contact teachers and ask questions. Be active and follow up if you don’t hear back in a timely fashion.

Be courteous with teachers and administration – Do not drop into class rooms unannounced. Check in with the front office. Schedule visits with the teachers and staff. Enter classrooms as a neutral observer. Behave yourself and do not draw attention or disrupt the teacher or your child. Be positive and make the experience a good one for all involved.

Pay close attention to how your child is doing – Grades are important but they not everything. Is your child happy? Does he or she do what’s necessary with a good attitude and an open mind? Is the child suddenly withdrawn, frustrated or angry? Pay attention to the clues. Listen and think about what is going on. Ask questions gently and learn what you can. Do not take rash actions.

Meet with teachers one on one – Problems may arise in middle school: assignments late or not turned in, low grades on quizzes, projects not done, unexcused absences, problems with other students. You must go to a teacher conference with an attitude of helpfulness. You and the teacher are there to help your child help themselves to be more successful. Make it easy on the teacher.

Stay Connected with Your Child - Expect changes to be resolved slowly over time and not overnight. Let your child know you are informed. Understand that students stretch the details and embellish the facts. Realize that their hormones are changing and that the drama and emotion are often times what is governing their reality. Don’t be judgmental or automatically rush to their defense or take sides. Stay in tune. Be there when they need you.

As a parent and teacher I totally agreed with the valid points made in this great book! This is a must read for all parents! I highly encourage you to check it out!


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